Wo 0! Tricky Question.
Not for all of course, for many it may be as easy as 'of course I know'. But there are poor fellows with higher vocabulary who confuse attraction with infatuation with liking with lust with raw passion with love or (my fav.) that strange feeling which they cant understand .
My friend asked me same question few days back, I liked my answer so much that I decided to put it on net.
It will require little visulization on your part. Or in simple words, you need to daydream, but on my suggestions.
Imagine you are in Mountains, in a weather that has put your good emotions on steroids. A weather that makes you forget all your worries, make you feel happy for no reason.
However you are not driving alone, your 'Girl' in question is sitting at back with two more friends.. both male. To make matters worse, the guy siting next to her is the guy you always suspected will do anything to get close to her. And the guy sitting at other end of the car is Tushar Kapoor. I mean only thing funny about him is that he does not resemble his father. Now if you are thinking, if 'she' is your girl why is she not sitting next to you, in front. Well that is because you spilled two beer bottles on that seat during your adventurous last nite. Not realistic? I am sorry I am short of time, and could not come with anything better.
Few miles have gone by, sun has come out and things are not looking as exciting as before. And everyone at back is feeling sleepy. 'Your' girl if I may call her is really sleepy by now, and is leaning on 'that jerk'. She is looking very beautiful though. Her head is on his shoulders and some of her hair are covering her face and some are touching his lips, that lucky b@$#@%. Even though unintentionally, they are looking like a 'couple'. In this situation:
1. If it does not bother you and you are completely focused on road, because you dont want to meet an accident. You are not in love! She is not for you and wait for the girl who is more important for you than the road. A girl you want to see even when you are counting your last breaths.
And boy are you luky, because I dont think even 5% of people are genuinely in love. They are in relationship but not in love. Cherish that love.. Feeling of being so much in love that no other emotion like lust, jealousy exist for you is divine.. Attain it.
One last thing, if 'your' girl, even while in sleep hugs the arm of that 'jerk', time to reconsider your choice :)
Not for all of course, for many it may be as easy as 'of course I know'. But there are poor fellows with higher vocabulary who confuse attraction with infatuation with liking with lust with raw passion with love or (my fav.) that strange feeling which they cant understand .
2. If you cant take your eyes off her and its not the face you are looking at. Also you are thinking about all dirty possibilities if only you were at that 'Jerk's' place. Do I need to say its lust. Either you start appericiating curves of her eyelids, nostrils, cheeks, ears as much as you appericiate curves of rest of her body or if you cant do that, tell that 'Jerk' you have drived for long and its time for him to control the wheels.
3. If looking at them makes your blood boil and your thoughts all of sudden have more impolite words than polite ones. Also if now you are keeping a close look at her and whenever she gets too close to him, you intentionally drive roughly to wake dem up so that she gets back to herself. And when they complain, you reply in a tone you will use if some one insulted you in public. You are Jealous, and jealousy only comes for people that are important to you, more important than the regular human being you interact on daily basis. However Jealousy is not an indicator of love, it is an indicator of attraction, infatualtion, liking. It doesnt mean, it can not develop to love, in fact you can be in love after you have been in any of the above situation, it just means you are not dere yet.
4. Now if you see her and you fall in love once again, if you love the peace on her face while she sleeps, if your eyes get glued to her hair flying because of air coming through the window. And the only reason you are looking at road is because you dont want anything to disturb her sleep. You drive so carefully as if purpose of your life is to take her to destination without waking her up. And amazingly all that time you did not even noticed that Jerk sitting along. Boy!! You are in LOVE.
And boy are you luky, because I dont think even 5% of people are genuinely in love. They are in relationship but not in love. Cherish that love.. Feeling of being so much in love that no other emotion like lust, jealousy exist for you is divine.. Attain it.
One last thing, if 'your' girl, even while in sleep hugs the arm of that 'jerk', time to reconsider your choice :)
Let me know with your comments if you liked my article. This is my first attempt at article writing after many years. Feedback -ve or +ve is much appericiated..
